07:00PM. 08/20/2012 . Bantala in office
Now I just check the clock in the monitor screen. It is 6:50PM. Don’t worry, my office time has been changed. It is up to 8:30 PM. In this bantala, I have completed more than 1year. I never prompt to write a note or wish to. But why today? Why in this time I am going to open this new .doc file and started writing.
Sometimes you need to do something what you not want to! This is a most general comment. You don’t want to come to office, but you come.. You don’t want to have food what masi has cooked last night.. but you have ate. In many steps we are doing something what we don’t want. Even if in our most likely things, there are some unlike part also.. But we do.. But why I am telling this today. This is because sometimes you need to do something what you strongly denied to that ..
Yesterday, I had a such type of experience. Yesterday I have visited to one of my prospects house. Yes “prospects “means I am going to marry. And that is arranged one … So I have visited one of the “Girl’s house’. I never wish to do that! I was in huge pressure.. My mom was crying. and my parents were more frustrated and come to end that their sons are not going to marry .. They are trying to push me to visit any of the “prospects “house.. but I pretend.. My ’jatha’, ‘boudis’ and all others are in also in believe that I will not marry more … asked several time .. if you have any choice already .. I mean if I am already in love with someone.. I can present her to them.. But I am not lucky enough! I am not smart enough! Or I am handsome enough! or in contrary, I am failed to receive any signals for beautiful girls or I have not concentrate on those.. Or can’t find anyone..
So this is the only way to choose your life partner.. Your dad also done that .. what is the problem with you! As I told this is some about philosophy. For me it is a great ashamed to that girl who is coming in front of you with a great make up and try to present her beauty queen so that you can choose her. I am too frustrated to handle this situation. But it was kind of blackmail. I can’t pretend.
As I receive the profile, the girl is studding in MA and very good to housewife. As my belief as she is educated enough, she will not follow the rule.. She may come to me with a friendly behavior. So at least that a little hope , I visited.. As I not wish to stay more time , so planned it as unplanned manner.. I wish to visit by my own. But as per my mom’s suggestion, this is not showing a proper respect of you! You should take any one of senior.. Senior, so choose my elder brother ( my jatha’s son)
I reached to her house at around 10:45AM. This was too late for visit. I visited this time as I will not stay long. Her ‘dadu’ was on the road. Seeing my bike, he come forward.. My elder brother already in a relation with him.. Now I find why “Senior” is mandatory for such type of visit. At least first time, you should have one. As I entered, someone exclaimed “Jamai aseche “ .. what !! bullshit!... Is they called me ‘Jamai’ for respect ! I should not comment on this.. there is two facilities in such type of call -> one, people should be arrange them what they are in the position and 2nd more most important one , the girl should be move to home.. she should be present in formal way!
Ok.. I prefer to talk to most senior person. Sorry in very truth, I try to speak person of most junior.. But can’t find anyone. So prefer the senior one rather that middle aged or like that.. Surprisingly I started talking .. I am not afraid more !! heyy !! great ! you are accustom all those. In truth, I was afraid a little how to react when I meet to that girl. Don’t think all those .. let the time elapsed.. All will be fine.
After 15 to 20 mins .. I found myself alone .. at the moment I found my elder brother with myslf! By some of their people should accompany with me! After all I am a prospect ;). Now I realize with you need accompany with others. So this is also a vital reason. Now more 10mins, I was called for to have some sweets. Some!!! it is more !.. Extra more!! I hardly take... It is really bad if I did not pick one.. I have taken one. It’s not like that I am not fond of sweets. But that day I can’t. My tongue was not wish to have any sweets.. it may be it was also in tense like me .. and secondly I was tense as the times coming to see the girl.. so more 15mins elapse..
Now they arrange the place where we … sorry “we all” can meet. The girl is coming .. I feel my hands and feet was shaking.. at a moment by blood is moving very fast and try to realize a new thing. At this moment, I find one theory to look to other side .. good !! I did that .. try to look to his father’s face( not looking more handsome ).. the girl sit in front of me ..
Who will be talk first? Yes the senior (my elder brother) started .. What’s is your name ? The silence breaks!! Now I find 4th reason why I should take one person for such type of visit. And in continuation ask one more what is her subject in MA? My heart bit are now try to settle down.. but not yet done yet. Now I speak a general comment: “ Sorry uncle, “ my uncle is coming blank.. Why sorry ..?“Sorry uncle, I never wish to come. I never wish to face such type of situation. For me it’s a great ashamed for that girl. Why she should pink herself and try to represent her like that ? “everyone’s focus is now to me. “It is because , she is a girl? It is because it is a culture? It is because of what ?. I really don’t like that..”
“No its ok” from her father’s voice. Now magically I got a huge confidence and continue speaking. Sometimes you see, you are speak a lot than normal, this is because you don’t want to express your tension to others. I continued.
“No, I really don’t like it .. I really appreciated if she simply come and make a gossip to me . For this reason only I really don’t like to visit. You know, this is my philosophy. “It’s too much. Now my subconscious mind, now another Brindaban try to press my throat and stop me .. I paused.. and stopped. Now anther’s turn. Her dads continue “ I really like you. I really like you and respect your thought ! you are rally a good person . “
Is it over? Again ball is in your quote. I waited for mere moment, so that anyone can serve this . waited ..waited.. Yes.. someone picks..
“What I think, they should talk each alone in this room.. we should leave” what ? it was not he save me, rather than push me! Anyways I am bit happy at least I find one reason in my side. Yes this is one negative reason reason for that why you should not take any senior. Anyway I also have an idea about this situation. So you can tell for this situation, I was bit prepared.
Everyone left. Only me and she sat in front of each other . What to speak? How to speak? Upto this I have managed some pip and see how the girl is looking and what she wears and bla.. bla…
Stop for 3mins.. heart bit again increasing . I got 2 reason why she should start first –1. It is her house.. she should start less nervous, she should start. 2. “Ladies fist” as all cases.
More 1min..
No!! I should start.. how to start …ok.. lets try to make the situation a friendly. I find one black spot in her hand.. As I suspect it was from long ! and it may be form birth also.. ok.. I managed my first question?
“What is this spot? Is your mother bitten as you failed to do the math?” no reaction.. absolutely no reaction.. ok it may be she is not heard it .. should I repeat this most silly question or what ? Again I am bit paused and repeat !!.. no reaction.. Now I can sure .. she may has some issue in listeing or she was too tensed..
I come forward with my chair and sit closer of her. “ I am really speak in low voice right ? .. After my last attempt also you did not listen to me “ . “no I hear you” ohh great !! I got a response.. but that should have some reaction.. Is this not a jokes ? I start losing my confidence.
Let’s talk more .. I started to talk.. Do you know what I am doing and bla bla? No expression.. anyways, I start taking .. and try to speak something non relavent to this .. I forcefully told her where I studied and where my native and bla bla.. No that should not be one way speech !!
“You really don’t like me , na ?? you thought that your husband will be like Sararukh Khan .. a handsome and have a personality like that .. I am really very sorry .. why should I come.. I am sorry..” no reaction yet .. again counting .. “ you thought your ‘bor’ will come with riding of horse and lifted you like ‘dil wala dulaniya le jayenge’? right ?’
“no no . it is not like that “ yes I got a response . I had thought to speak to her. I don’t lose now ..
Now I find some confident on my side and try to speak her . Now apply my management concept ! yes . I am perusing my MBA.
“ You are not talking a long ? why ? too shy ? why you are too nervous? it is your house. You should be confident. Ok.. let speak something .. I am going to hear from you!”
Again silent.. Now I am bit annoyed..
“Ok.. let’s ask me 10 question? Without this I am not going to leave.. I will brother you?”
Start.. Start.. START!!
Ok.. let me do countdown , with in 10 you should ask me any question “ 1 2 3 … 9 “ not yet done .. don’t worry you have time .. ask me anything .. I have pushed some sample questions.. like what’s you make, why are not handsome ? Why do you come ? anything you can ask .. what is in your mind now?
Again started countdown “ 9.1 9.2 9.3 9.4 ..”
“aapni engineer porechen “ I corrected “ aapni” na “ tumi” ..
Now ask “ tumi j engineering porecho…”
“Tumi j engineering porecho .. tumi jeta porecho .. tumi ki engineer hote cheyechile ? na onnyo kichu porte cheye chile?”
Had she recently saw the 3 idiot movie? This is a old movie? maybe she also manage this question long and wish to ask me .. I comment
“good .. really good question”
“ actually I never think of an engineer. For me I want to be a cultivator. As my father did.. but frankly speaking my JEE ranks permit me to do that .. and dad encourages.. If I don’t have any choice I have to do cultivation. If I wish to read any general line , I surely go to your college.. when I was small and going crossing by your college, I dreamt to go to college. But never happens…. “
Now your second question:
After a long silence and several push ..” what is your name ?”
“Brindaban Hati.. Really bad name na ?? Really don’t like it ?? first name “ Brindaban” .. and title “Hati” iss… is it ? frankly speaking I don’t like my name.. I thought if my dad change my name and put some heroic name like rahul , Sarahuk.. or anything .. that will be better.. now think surname hati.. you may feel why Hati.. he is too slim .. slim why hati.. “ speaking and spaking .. but surprisingly no such expression form opposite site .. I am going to frustrated..
Now her ‘dadu’ enters.. I just take away my chair and make a distance.. and frankly speak ‘WE are just grossing “ .. “ you people continue ..” “ no no its not like that .. you can sit .. I insist you sit “ in this time he disappear!! So for me it was a knock.. I was in hurry .. then what about the reamaing 8 question..
“ go first.. your ‘dadu’ knocked.. ok.. ask me any one question .. I will leave “
Thinking and thinking and finally come ..
“ Have you get star marks*(above 80%) in Secondary Exam?”
What ? What type of question is like that ?
I continued .. “when you are small, you dreamt that your hero will be a star.. If he is not star also, at least he should have star marks in MP. Right? Iss I thought I missed you! For a little chance .. I may lose you..” After a long drama.. I feel it may be make ashamed to him. “ I just got star marks in ME.” And tell her the number..? but why she ask the me ME number ? In general I may expect some question like .. what actually I am doing ? How much I earn? Is I really take care of her.. like that ..
After all it was a nice meting to her.. But really listen from her!
